Every day life has it's particular challenges and being a parent does not make these challenges any easier. However, how many times do you lose your cool with your child because of their behaviour, academic performance, or choices? What do you do?
Parents often see their child as a reflection of themselves and when their child fails or makes a mistake it is perceived as the parent making this mistake which could then lead to a negative emotional response. Anger is a normal emotional response however one must be cautious of how they interact with and speak to their children in anger.
Disciplining your child while 'seeing red' can have long term affects on your child's self esteem, emotional stability and future social interactions.
Be aware of your anger triggers not only associated with your child and take the time to calm down before addressing a situation with your child. Deep breathing, counting to 10 or leaving the room can be helpful strategies to use when angry.
Many parents lose control because they take children's misbehavior personally.
What can help:
Very often children are brought to me for counselling due to disruptive behaviours in the classroom. Although there are many contributing factors to how a child functions in school and the classroom, parents must be aware of how their interactions affect their children. Continuous parental conflict and animosity can have a negative impact on how your child functions in everyday life, as he lacks the security, structure and consistency that he needs. Instead he is exposed to poor communication, hostility and the child may feel guilty and torn between which side to take.
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